When a person sets out to find true fulfillment, they might claim that education, career or family is where it’s at. Once long-term goals have been reached, they discover that something is still missing; there is a distinct feeling of emptiness. This person might then search for a new point of interest to study, a change of career, a new lover… all to discover after achieving a measure of success in getting what they want this time, again they’ve come up short. Perhaps even, they feel worse for having screwed around with what they’ve worked so hard to accomplish in the first place.
Some turn to Religion. And for many who practice various types of religious activities, this has become a way of life that has a purpose far greater than any they alone could have been a part of. Still, many are very unhappy with their lives, despite claiming to be devout.
Then, there are those special few that, despite having all these things, plus a healthy dose of good health, good friends and lots and lots of money and/or free time, find that they are still just plain unhappy.
Seeking Purpose is a Universal Desire
Every person on the planet wants and needs to feel that there is a reason for continuing to draw breath and move forward. Once this desire is quenched, it truly is the best possible high a person can experience! After that, we can never quite seem to get enough of that feeling. According to one author of an article in Psychology Today, it boils down to this:
“To be happy is to feel oneself moving along personally approved lines.”
That may seem a somewhat shallow and uncomplicated bowl to pour all of mankind into. Logically though, it makes since. Our world; our individual perspective, exists in our imagination. Knowing how to use this absolute power to change our world, can be the most important discovery we will ever make. Now, we must decide what to believe about life. Will we believe the Bible’s explanation, the preachers/rabbi’s/saint’s/ Buddha’s explanation, this or that’s politician’s or scholar’s or blog writer’s view? When we lay down and close our eyes for the evening, do we feel like we are moving in the right direction? How can we remove the complicated mess of a million different opinions telling us what we NEED to do with our lives?
An individual might ask himself: what is the most important aspect of life and is it worth putting in the extra effort and added energy to enhance the benefits of that particular aspect? If it is family, work/career, relationship/religion… what can I continuously do to create a routine that adds a sense of purpose and meaning to my life?
For example: A woman may decide that feeling physically healthy is most important to her, so she implements a healthy routine of eating 3 balanced meals a day (including 1 liter a day of water in her diet), exercising 3 times a week (at least walking for 30 minutes after work) and at least 7 hours of sleep every night. She may not always reach her goal of ‘healthy living’ perfectly, but her continuous effort will make this lifestyle change more permanent and she will have a satisfying feeling of fulfillment.
Humankind is programmed in such a way that without a healthy routine of eating, exercise and meaningful activity, we start to decompose. Death may be inevitable, but the feeling of having had a truly meaningful life is a beautiful and priceless gift. https://funeralsyourway.com/five-pieces-advice-die/
“Am I a sheep or am I a goat?” – Mr. Rodgers
There is wisdom in not saying to yourself, or anyone else, “I will be happy when….” Postponing happiness is a bad habit that will get us into a cycle of discontent. So, the purpose of life is, in fact, to get moving along those “personally approved lines”. The old Cliché: setting small reachable goals that lead to large goals, is the sure way toward accomplishment. Find and surround yourself with lots of people that you admire. Being absorbed in good examples will rub off on you. But, FIRST!! know what it is you want out of life. Can you get it? Is it worth getting? How do you go about getting it? Then remove all distractions/obstacles to getting it.
Ultimate Long-term Goal – Buying a house (no mortgage)
Obstacles/ Distractions to Overcome: Impulse Buying
Pay off Credit Cards
Become financially responsible
Save for down payment
Better spending habits
With my tax money, pay off as much as possible
Set aside $30-$50 monthly
(ask mom to hold)
The journey in pursuit of balance is a worthwhile experience. Cliché or not, we can make better decisions by working good habits into our daily routine. The desired outcome being that we have purpose, if for no other reason than that we feel good about the direction our lives are going. It is okay to keep revisiting the goal after taking some time off. It is okay, as long as we keep going.
Know Thyself | Psychology Today
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